“The double-edged sword of living in a city with a large gay community is that the community gets so large that we finally have the opportunity to marginalize people within it.” “I relate to a lot of what EDDIE is feeling here,” said Joel Kim Booster, a Brooklyn-based writer and comedian. What can I do? I might as well be a sexless monk.Įnraged Dude Details Infuriating Experience Why is there no acceptance, no space, no welcome for me in this white-painted gay community? I’m six-foot-one, 160 pounds, fit and very good-looking. I had the same pain of being gay in high school and the same fears when coming out.
But it is unfair for a gay Asian like myself to be constantly marginalized and rejected.
I understand that sexual attraction is subconscious for many people. Gay men, mostly whites and Asians, reject me because of my race and no one admits to their sexual racism. Dan Asian invisibility in gay communityĪs a queer man of colour – I’m Asian – I feel wounded whenever I am exposed to gay men in New York City, Toronto or any city where white gay men dominate. I hope everyone has a happy and safe Pride.
I’m taking a week off, so this week’s “Savage Love” is a reprint of a column that was originally published on January 13, 2016.
